Roots and Wings - when its time for them to fly
My Son has told me that whilst my Instagram good I am writing too much and I should be doing a blog and instead having a link to the blog in my ‘story’ so people go to the site and start choosing to work with me.. my argument with him has been that when I do my Insta I just write without thinking about it but if I was to put the word ‘blog’ into the concept I might start overthinking and start writing what I think people what to hear as opposed to what I am feeling in that moment.. living from the heart never easy in a world that sells fear but when we trust our instinct the path we are supposed to be on love is never far away and when the student is ready the teacher will appear and in my case life and my children are my greatest teachers…
This same son is off travelling for three months this evening and as we talked last night I asked the question of what will have changed in the time he is gone and what will he miss whilst he is gone.. his reply very ‘normal’ for an 18 year old who will come back 19.. Nothing much ! His response reminded me of a conversation I had with a friend yesterday who’s son has also gone travelling.. she has committed to herself that by the time he comes back she will be able to do more push ups.. as a fitness trainer I totally get why that would be a challenge on her radar.. as I thought about my own challenge in his absence I can think of no better one than to commit to doing what he suggested .. Writing a blog and being the change I want to see in my own world and so it begins .. my commitment to me over the next three months is to strive to do better and to come out of my comfort zone .. it reminds me of another conversation I had yesterday about how easy it is when we are comfortable in our own company not to seek the company of others and yet her important it is that once we have true connection with ourselves we still seek to connect with others because it is equally how we learn .. only we learn by observation as opposed to judgement and it is here that we find both self-acceptance and compassion for others walking in their own shoes.
Our words of wisdom at our ‘last supper’ last night was stay safe, stay in contact and have fun .. my son is a wise soul who needs this trip to use his roots and wings to find out how to fly and how to return to the nest too .. it will no doubt bring him challenges but it will also bring him opportunities to start becoming who he is destined to be and to start being the man he is becoming … I trust that he will know when to stand tall and when to ask for help as well as when to trust more than he fears and to know no matter what time of day or night there will be someone here waiting to help him find the next step he needs to take … I know this because it is something I did not have and had to learn and I equally know that I did not learn until I got the gift in ugly packaging and whilst family is not about blood but the people who make you feel safe enough to be yourself ….when you know you are seen and heard you learn to allow life to work for you not to you and you begin to trust in your roots and wings and home is always the place that allows you to feel safe enough to be yourself providing you are willing to be that person and know that those that matter never mind and those that mind will cease to matter because we are always enough when we say we are and when we do life will show us exactly what we need as well as what we love …